Communication

Communication

Hey everyone, lately i have been very nostalgic and been talking about really great times i have had being collared as well as some recent events.  Tonight i want to talk about communication. 

One of the earliest things i had to learn was that the main thing in any D/s relationship is communicate, communicate, communicate!!!!  (Yes, it was ALWAYS told in threes..... but it also showed the importance of it).  This was the most prevalent when i was talking to my first Sir.

Sir invited me to a Leather Run, the first i ever been to.  i was very excited and looking forward to it.  Then a  few weeks later, Sir told me that He was bringing another boy.......  i was very pissed off..... so i hung up the phone on him.

GASP

yeah, i can hear you gasping and expecting the worse.... but let me explain a few things.  This relationship was my second relationship i ever had....also, i was SO new to leather (as in only months) that i was still learning what is appropriate in a Leather Relationship.  Lastly,  it pushed a major button of abandonment in me.

i calmed down a bit, and then started to shake..... i thought he was mad at me, but at the same time, i wanted to test Sir.... is He really interested in me....will He follow through?

Well.... i actually called him about 26 min later, and Sir and i had a good discussion.  Also was ordered to NEVER......EVER..... to hang up on Him again. 

As time went on in the relationship, i did get better in communication.

One thing i  am a proponent of is realization of different forms of communications.  i want you to think of different ways of communication.  Can you think of any?  How about forms of non-verbal communication?

TOUCH

Touch is one of my biggest forms of  accepting communication.  The touch of a Master’s hand on your face............. the kiss given freely by a Master.......... the grip on your hair (on head or beard) for an inspection or even a blowjob.   When you read the previous sentence, did you have any feelings or emotions as you read them?  i do, and it communicates to me...

Touch..... Compassion, affection, love

Kiss.... Eroticism,  affection,   ownership

Grab.... ownership,  submission,  being wanted

EYES

Ok, i am a fan of Tyra Banks, Americas Next Top Model.  One of the things she teaches the models is Smizing.....smiling with your eyes.  In the Leather world, what does your eyes to do when you see something erotic?  When you’re compassionate?  When you’re in complete submission/ Dominance?  Master C is one of the best examples i have seen when it comes to this.  i remember (that is when i look) when Sir shows Compassion, Happiness, and Mischievous.  i know he has an erotic look to his eyes, the thing is i have never seen it with me because either i am sucking on his cock, or my back is to him when he whipped me!!!! :D

In a relationship i was in, despite all the verbal communication we had, the one thing that was screaming in my head was “PLEASE JUST TOUCH ME!”  This was not just for play, but rather the reassurance a touch can give and the affection i needed. Ever since then, i have been a big proponent of multiple forms of communication especially non-verbal. The relationship i have with Master C, i am grateful to have this multi form communication style..... even if it is a Mentorship/Protectionship and not a collared one.

SO......what do you  think?  What other forms of communication do you use?